One of the biggest mistakes guys make when trying to flirt with a girl is acting completely out of character. They get all swagger when they talk to her over text but then come off like a church mouse in person. That’s a big turn-off to girls. Instead, you should play to your strengths when approaching her in person. If she likes rap music, rock out with her in a club or show her your dance moves on the street.

Another mistake many guys make when approaching a girl is looking at her too long. It’s important to be able to hold eye contact and smile, but there are some moments when you’ll want to let go of her gaze. For example, if she’s busy checking her email or comforting a friend who’s having a rough day, it may not be the best time to try and strike up a conversation.

You also don’t want to approach her if she seems stressed, preoccupied or in a hurry. She’s more likely to open up to someone who’s calm, relaxed and at her leisure. Similarly, you shouldn’t ask her out for a drink if she’s at the bar with her friends or getting ready to go to dinner with family members. It just comes off as desperate or needy and she’ll see it as a sign that you’re not a confident guy. She’ll be less inclined to make a move with you in the future.